This statement, ‘I can’t remember’ is used by many, be it as a defence on their innocence in court by someone facing conviction , or by the man on the street to defend their innocence against a blame from something wrongful that they have done.
While there’s truth in some cases where they truly can’t remember due to a lapse of memory, there are unfortunately many deceitful people who use this again and again so that you can’t lay a hand on them. To these people, their hidden intention is ‘ get off my back’.
I have, and I believe that some of you do have some people in your life who frequently use the ‘I can’t remember’ weapon. Very unfortunately, their habitual use of it has robbed them of their integrity and respect in our eyes.
To me, the best way to deal with them is not to take flight from them but to confront them, stare into their eyes to show them that you do see through their deceitful words. If you have other evidence of their super memory in other things that they have higher priorities, it pays to highlight these evidences to them. One such rebut I use is, Oh! You can’t remember this simple thing, but how come you can remember this or that …………?”
While there’s no guarantee that this will be a good solution to stop their deceitful ways, it will certainly minimise their usage of it so that they begin to live a life of truth.