The Consequences of Choice

If you have been following my Saturday articles in the New Straits Times (NST), you would have noticed that I talked a fair bit about my personal life, besides coaching and HR topics.

Why do I open up my life to “public scrutiny”? It is a risk I am taking like there could be misinterpretation of meanings and intentions, loss of privacy (to some extent) including losing ‘credibility’ as well. But I decided to throw caution to the wind because I believe that to a great extent that what I have, and am going through my life represents some parts of what others like you may have gone (and will be going) through. And if I have learned from them, then others can learn from them too. Thus, the bigger purpose for what I‘m doing for the community (and society) far surpasses the little concerns that I have just mentioned.

In one of my recent articles entitled ‘ Limits On Limitations’, I shared why some seven years ago, I chose not to be an employee anymore, although I was then a top executive in a very dynamic and successful organization. Since leaving I founded 2 companies – Corporate Coach & Corporate Coach Academy as well as being involved in other businesses in tourism-related industries.

Besides giving up a lot of perks and benefits, it is more hard work now, more than my “employee days”.  Being CEO (Chief “Everything” Officer), I have to do almost everything and, with the current economic situation, bear more “headaches” too. Yet, the bottom-line is that I am really happy with what I am doing now. I can express myself more; there is greater autonomy; and I am my own boss to top it all!

Not everyone would have the courage to take the path I have taken. The key word here is “choice”. Once we have made our choice, we accept the consequences of our choice. Using my example, I would be so frustrated if I had stayed on and be unable to do the things that express my inner passion and motivation.

I hope mine is a lesson to those who are still wasting their time whining about their life, employers, closed ones etc and not taking any action to change the circumstances of their life.

The most important thing that matters is to feel empowered in your choices and be able to live your life with honor, humility and passion. And, perhaps more importantly, it is to be able to embrace ALL of life and accept ALL life’s consequences that come from our choices and decisions.

If you have taken the same path as I have, what were your experiences like? What significant lessons did you learn along the way? How would you help someone who is about to embark on something similar but is having “big butterflies in the stomach”?


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At last! I am now able to take my coaching thoughts and experiences across to many more people, many more cultures and many more countries. For many years I have been a columnist for the Malaysian media, New Straits Times. Until this ‘blog thing’ became a new and powerful reality in communication technology, I had only been able to ‘talk down’ to mostly Malaysians, giving my one-sided views on how I would overcome their life and work challenges that they asked me to.

Although I was much fulfilled for being able to touch lives in this way, it was grossly inadequate. I wanted to do more but I could not. The circle was rigidly limited; the communication was a dry monologue that was restricted to my views alone. I was sure that they were many out there who wanted to give their many cents’ worth as well but couldn’t.

I am so elated now that this constraint has been lifted; it is now a piece of my own history. With my blog, I am now able to take Coaching to many more levels. I visualize myself as an ‘idea stirrer’ (a better word is ‘facilitator’) to stimulate a world community of like-minded helping professionals of coaches, consultants, trainers, therapists, including ordinary people who are driven by a passion to help themselves and others grow in their lives.

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