BUILD AND GROW YOUR CHARISMA
Q: The subject of ‘charisma’ always interests me a lot simply because I do not have much of it. I think I am dull and boring with little ‘shine’ in me. What do I need to work on to get more of it?
A: ‘Charisma’ is the magnetism that attracts people to them. With this, they can lead, persuade, convince, inspire and influence people well. Personal powers come along with it. Without this, you cannot exude trust, likeability and credibility.
The good news is everyone can build and grow their charisma. This can be done at two levels. At the intrinsic level (which is more important), work on identifying and then ‘repairing’ those disempowering and negative areas in your emotional state, such as your outlook towards life, your beliefs, passion and the excitement about things you do. At the extrinsic level, focus on exterior aspects such as your clothing, mannerisms, voice quality, and communication ability. When both are in order, you increase your ‘magnetism’ to attract people to you.
POWERFUL QUESTIONS
- What do you want people to do for you?
- What is one action that will make you see better results?
- What can you do more to make yourself more ‘attractive’ to them?
- What are you prepared to give up doing to gain something better?
A MATTER OF CONNECTION
Q: For a while now, I have been working on enhancing my powers of persuasion so that people can respect me and do what I want them to do. But the results are somewhat slow as I still struggle to get people on my side. How can I hasten it?
A: The most important thing to note is, ultimately, the power to persuade is determined very much by the closeness you have with people. This is the first place to work on.
When people are close to you, they will walk the extra mile for you, listen more to you, be open to your views, and are more generous to you as well. Closeness with people increases their trust for you. When people lack this, they may need to resort to some sort of ‘forceful’ means to get things done.
Be mindful that you are always sending out ‘energy’ to the other person. When you are warm and positive, you will send out a different kind of energy compared to when you are cold and negative. Watch your thoughts, words, and actions and check on them every now and then. Get feedback from your good friends who can tell you a lot about yourself.
POWERFUL QUESTIONS
- What are some habits you need to change for people to be close to you?
- How can you be more aware before they show up?
- What good behaviours do you want to show more of?
- What can you do to make them an art of you always?
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